This weekend when I was sittin at the pool with the kids my daughter's boyfriend's mom came down and we started talking. She asked me not judge her and revealed to me that since her son has been very curious about sex lately and is apparently bombarding her with questions she decided to let him watch a porn video. HE IS 12!!!
Forget not judging her...IS SHE CRAZY?? Am I being judgemental to say that her son is no longer allowed to date my daughter? Because that was the first thing I did say. I have had two daughters asking me about sex since they were about 8 years old and never once did I think, "I'll just slap in a porno and hope that explains it."
I consider myself a pretty open minded mom, but to allow a 12 year-old child to view porn to me is lunacy. What happened to parents actually talking to their children? I continually talk to my daughters, and now my son about sex, dating and everything else they get shoved in their faces on a daily basis. But we talk...they are allowed to ask any question they want and I am proud to day that they feel comfortable enough to ask some pretty...um... shall we say "adult" questions. Here are some examples:
"What is a donkey show?"
"Mom why would a girl want to suck on a boy's d*ck?"
"How come if boobies are for babies to eat boys always go crazy over them?"
"What is masturbation?"
"Why would someone masturbate?"
"Why do people have sex like dogs?" (after hearing something about doggie-style)
These are just a few but I hope it shows how comfortable my children are with talking to me about these types of things. I just cannot comprehend answering these questions by handing my child a porn tape, lotion and a towel (in a boy's case).
If I am being closed minded here I would love to hear it but I will stick by my opinion that this is just bad, lazy parenting.
~Darlin~
8 comments:
good for you Jo!
Our position as parents is to guide and explain, heaven knows what ideas about sex and sexual behaviour a kid is going to pick up from a porno movie
I totally agree with you Darlin.
Um, what the heck IS a donkey show?
LOL...That's what I want to know!
Hey Darlin..I agree on that being a really stupid way of talking to your kid about sex.
LOL...ambre are you serious?
~Darlin~
Ok a donkey show is a show they do in the back alleys of Mexico where a woman has oral sex and intercourse with a donkey...
Sorry for the visual guys but it appears a lot of you don't know what it is...hope that clears it up.
~Darlin~
Ha, interesting post :)
About the cam - I have Nikon D80, but the trick is the post processing itself.. ask uncle google for some tips cuz his got much to offer :)
Take care+
It's out and out ridiculous and highly irresponsible. I mean for one, very rarely is porn a realistic look at sex. For two, what about the questions that will inevitably come up as a result of watching a porn? Is the kid supposed to ask the television? I'm sad to say that this does not surprise me one bit though. Many parents are too lazy to parent their children period -- let alone have the big (or even better - ongoing) sex talk. I told my daughter about sex the summer before fourth grade. We've touched on different sex-related topics since then. My mom didn't bring up the topic with me (via and Ann Landers column LOL) until two years after I had already been having sex. Sad.
Thanks for clearing up the donkey show thing. I've heard of this but never heard it called such. I don't understand how it's possible either, but then again ... the world is a very strange place.
Thanks mate... just dropped by. Will look for BIKE STN when we get to Seattle. Still in Buenos Airies.
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